Equality is more than a hashtag….

So the red bull heavy water caused a stinker… just basically twats in an office… men with self esteem issues….

In an ideal world we are equal. I feel equal… I really do… thanks to my parents and my husband…and my friends I grew up with…..I feel free to be who I am.. I think I m lucky and I ve been told this…I m lucky to have a husband who lets me be me….  an interesting statement….”lets”… 

I love waves..I m out alot..But frequently when I look around especially when i m sup surfing and the waves are good…i m the only women out… its disappointing….i ask my female friends why dont you sup surf…. always they say “i m too scared”…” i don’t like getting pounded by waves”… (neither do I)…   these fears; why do women have them and who put them there…Do  men have the same fears? maybe the women are scared but by learning in good waves tackles these fears; something I m totally up for doing with them…. so red bull were twats or whoever dod it… but here at my level… us women are too busy being scared…. an idea put in their head somewhere along the lines…. women are also less inclined than mento pick up new sports…why? This is totally bizarrre for me to understand… (maybe confidence; issues that start appearing in women as young as 10)

Combinr this fear with the fact i know where the women are…. they are at home looking after the kids; doing that last piece of laundry or emptying the dish washer…….

So its complex and fustrating….

How do I live up to my sporty label? I m not ashamed at getting a babysitter in as soon as msw shows up the 3 star buisness…  or to play hockey or just to go and have some party fun… I feel not weight of burden going away camping in the wilds of scotland child free… I don’t feel like I’m bad mother… instead I m setting an example to my kids…both boy and girl….

But i know alot of women who couldn’t contemplate it;just like i know alot of mothers would never go on a paddling holiday on her  own (my annual paddle journey)… for fear of being a bad mother…

This transcends to hockey… I know many women who stop because they cant leave their kids on a saturday morning…. they can’t face leaving their kids with a babysitter…so if him indoors is off out because he works all week so he needs “his” time; then boom no hockey…

Do the men feel the same angst? .. signs with hashtags are great … but this problem is cultural and begins at home with our sons and husbands… and its soooo deep…  where do I begin? Well I do all I can to show my mummy yummy friends that to have a life its ok….

Alot of mothers that I know alway tells me when coming into sport for the 1st time “I like to do something for my self” or “I really need to do something for myself”… this sentence is telling….

(I do know some Dads who do stay around at weekends so the Lady can go off…that is cool)

It may be a bias opinion I recognise that… but I m surrounded by mothers and I m “sporty” (thats my label 😉 )….

And by the way all paddle races aren’t as equal as you think. .. the PPG drone “ran” out of battery for the womens race…. would this be allowed to happen for the mens? I’ll leave that to you…

#equality #equalityinpaddling 

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